Do you ever just wonder how the heck some people manage to have it all? I mean, between a demanding career, family commitments, solid relationships, active social life, alone time, and blah blah blah....the list goes on. Well if you have wondered, I'm here to share with you how you can have it all too. And it starts with the number 1 rule that I'm always going on about....
Don't compete or compare!
Firstly, don't compare your life to others and what they appear to have or appear to achieve. Your journey is just that - your journey. Each of us has our own unique purpose in life and the very best you can do is to become the very best version of yourself. High achievers don't concern themselves with what everyone else is doing - they are far too busy succeeding at what they are doing.
Think of it this way, if you're running a race your focus should be in your lane and your finish line. If you suddenly start watching everyone else run, you'll waste valuable time and energy and will probably move outside your lane and hit an obstacle.
It's ok to not do everything yourself - surround yourself with great people who have your back!
"It's ok, I'll do that"....sound familiar? Scrap the mentality of doing everything yourself. Of course, there are many things that you can do but choose them wisely. High achievers are people of significant influence and in most cases the level of influence may determine your level of success. Establish and maintain meaningful relationships with trust as the foundation. When you do this, you are allowing yourself to be surrounded by experts in what they do best which gives you the required time to assist others in getting what they need and want.
I absolutely love this next point because it is so true, yet so hard for many of us to get our heads around...
What other people think of you is none of your business....
Here's the thing, you'll never be able to please everyone so what you need to do is learn how to back yourself. If you have the belief in yourself, other opinions become less significant. People will always talk and let them - we each have a right to express our opinion, however it's how you react to the talk that will define the level of success you can achieve. Stay firm in your beliefs and stay true to who you are. What does Taylor Swift say.... haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate......I'm just gonna shake it off, shake it off......
Be comfortable getting outside of your comfort zone.
You've heard the saying 'do something every day that scares you?' This doesn't mean that everyday is an action packed sky-diving or bungee jumping kind of day - it just means that you need to push outside of your comfort levels to achieve greatness. This is where the magic happens - break your own records and feel the fear and do it anyway. When you do this, you open the gateways for massive self improvement and is one of the secrets of high achievers.
Learn to listen more.
High achievers don't just talk for the sake of talking - they talk when there is something valuable to add. They add meaning to a discussion and listen more than they speak. When was the last time you actively listened? Most of us are so consumed in conversation focused on what we will say next, we tend to miss the point of what's actually being said. Next time you're in conversation, actively take notice of what you're doing and if you catch yourself thinking of what to say next, stop and listen!
I know this is supposed to be the top 5 rules that high achievers swear by, but I couldn't resist throwing in a bonus rule because it really does change your productivity....
Smash out the most important things first.
There's a few reasons for this.
1. If you start with the most important thing first, you will always achieve something important each day.
2. You won't spend time procrastinating getting more done - rather you'll get more of the right things done.
3. Momentum - success loves momentum so when you start to the see benefits of getting the important stuff done, you'll want to keep going.
It's wonderful to have the belief that you are a high achiever, but you do actually need to put the effort in to become one. Start with these small improvements each day and watch as you become the person you desire to be!
Love & Light
xx Sandra Stoitis xx