Every day we make decisions that directly impact our health. No matter how small the decisions may seen, they all have a huge impact on our emotional, mental and physical well-being. How do you spend time? Are you adding value to your life with the people you spend time with? Could your daily routine be holding you back from achieving what it is you really want? I can't answer these questions for you, but you can!
It's time to look at your life as an observer and see how you can allow more joy into your life - it may be as easy as 1,2,3.....
The first area we need to address is your future vs your past.
Are you living in the moment, focused on where you are going, or are you looking back at where you've been? The past is fantastic because it has led you to this very point - however, not so great if you find yourself learning the same things over and over again. Life has a way of throwing the same scenarios at us repeatedly until we learn the required lesson and it's not until this point that we can move forward to take on the next challenge.
So, to keep you on the path to bigger and better experiences, I urge you to take a moment to consider the following:
* Who do I spend the majority of my spare time with?
* When I am with this person (or people) are my experiences mostly positive or negative?
* Do we talk about the future and our goals/aspirations or do we spend our time re-hashing our past and talking about others?
* How does delving into my past benefit me?
* Is there a life lesson that keeps appearing for me?
* What is the biggest life lesson I think I need to learn?
The last question there is vital, because when you answer intuitively (usually the first thing that comes to mind before you've had a chance to think about it) - you will answer based on your inner knowingness of what is holding you back.
Sometimes it could be a person, other times a behaviour that may need adjusting - whatever it is, take note and actively strive to make positive changes so the same life lesson doesn't continue to be thrown your way!
Your life is like a book - how can you explore and experience all the chapters if you keep revisiting chapter 1?
The second area I will raise with you is putting others and work first...
Are you caught up in how 'busy' you are because you are trying to juggle it all with very little down time for yourself?
Firstly, I have to tell you how much I dislike the word busy...for me, I use the word achieving instead - it's so much more enjoyable to say and there's no negative connotation associated with it. That being said, when you ask most people how they are these days, you get the stock-standard response.."good, busy..."
Secondly, you need to ask yourself "why am I so busy?"
Is it a lack of organisation? Is it because you are too organised
and you haven't allocated any time for yourself? Are you trying to climb the work ladder and this has been your focus?
Whatever the reason, when you are rushing through life you are not actually present. We all have that person in our lives who is with us, but not really with us if you know what I mean. The one whose mind is wandering off thinking about a million other things when they should be present, enjoying the here and now. Consider the impact this could have on your family, friends and loved ones?
Take a moment to think about the following:
* What are my priorities * Do my current actions and behaviours reflect my priorities?
* What do I do for myself regularly?
* If I wasn't so busy with (insert action here, ie: work, family, study etc) what would I do with my time?
These 4 questions will bring clarity to what your priorities are and when you compare them with your actions and behaviours, it may explain why you may be feeling like life is out of whack.
Find a way to take some time out for yourself. Take a walk, exercise, try a new hobby that you've been interested in for a while, schedule regular catch ups with friends...whatever it may be. When you are well-balanced and live life according to your values and priorities, everyone, including you, gets the best possible you! Letting go of certain things may be difficult, but one thing is for sure - it's worth it!
Thirdly, laugh more!
Laughter is the sweetest medicine for stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing brings your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. It will lighten your burdens, connect you to others, and helps to keep you grounded, focused and alert.
Best of all, this priceless medicine is fun, free, and will support your physical and emotional health.
Some of the many benefits of laughter include:
Boosts immunity - Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies.
Decreases pain - Laughter triggers the release of endorphins which are the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.
Relaxes your muscles - A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress and can leave your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes afterwards.
Prevents heart disease - Laughter increases blood flow and improves the function of blood vessels which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular issues.
Helps reduce conflict - Nothing diffuses anger and conflict faster than a shared laugh. When you have the capacity to look at the funny side, you can put your issues into perspective which can enable you to move on from confrontations without holding onto bitterness or resentment.
Adds joy and zest to life - no explanation needed!
Every day is a blessing and to get the most out of each and every single day, we need to be present. We need to be living according to our values and beliefs, sharing our time with like-minded people who encourage and support us to be the very best versions of ourselves.
Love yourself unconditionally.
Find something to laugh about every day.
Love & Light
xx Sandra Stoitis xx